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Chuck Feeney, 82, wears a $15 Casio watch, travels in economy, is a self-confessed ‘shabby dresser’ and sensibly made his children work their way through college.
Why profit incentives are good.
I will certainly not claim he is a perfect man. But my fascination is with the economic theories of his wealth; I hear so often that profit motives are evil. But I reckon what causes people to hold onto their earnings more than greed, is the fear that the gov’t will take more and more of it.
“Mr. Feeney was an entrepreneur from an early age and was always thinking of new money-making schemes, including selling Christmas cards door-to-door and teaming with a friend to shovel sidewalks during snowstorms.”
Always thinking of ways to make a profit. Beginning with the assumption that people need or want something. Not scheming to cheat people out of their wealth. It is a perfect trade.
He [rightly so] avoided as many taxes as he could. And in the end, became a philanthropist donating 99% of his earnings.
Hilariously, quipping that the government is asserting it is hypercritical for a tax evader to become a philanthropist.
I would argue the opposite; because the initiation of force, through extortion, does not deem one charitable.
Just one thing: this infographic is great and mostly useful, except that it doesn’t make clear the fact that a breathalyzer refusal results in a summary administrative license suspension ONLY when you’re under arrest. If the cop hasn’t arrested you yet, it’s likely because he doesn’t yet have probable cause— and you shouldn’t help him establish probable cause by consenting to a breathalyzer or a blood sample!
So if you get pulled over and a cop tells you that you’re going to do a field sobriety test, the finger following test, a breathalyzer, or a blood draw, ask him, “Am I under arrest?" If the answer is no, you should NOT consent to anything whatsoever.
6. By yelling you might miss out on life-changing moments.
"One night I heard footsteps coming downstairs well after bedtime. Although infuriated that my "me-time" was interrupted, I remained calm and returned said child to bed. As I tucked him in he said "Mommy, will you love me if I go to heaven first, because if you go first, I will still love you. In fact, I will always love you." Tears still come to my eyes just writing that. I can guarantee if I had yelled "GET BACK IN BED!" we never would have had that sweet, very important conversation."
7. Two words you should always remember are “at least.”
"I am not going to say not yelling is "easy peasy," but getting creative with alternatives certainly made it easier and more doable. And after yelling into the toilet, beating my chest like a gorilla, singing Lalala, Lalala it’s Elmo’s world, and using orange napkins at mealtime as a reminder of my promise, it certainly got a heck of a lot easier. Sure, I feel silly at times doing these things, but they keep me from losing it. So do my new favorite words: "at least." These two small words give me great perspective and remind me to chill out. I use them readily in any annoying but not yell worthy kid situation. "He just dropped an entire jug of milk on the floor… at least it wasn’t glass and at least he was trying to help!" I also use them readily when I want to give up:“‘Okay, this is hard but at least there are only three hours until bedtime, not 12."
8. Often times, I am the problem, not my kids.
"The break-up line, "It’s not you, it’s me" rings uncomfortably true when learning not to yell. I quickly realized that oftentimes I wanted to yell because I had a fight with my husband, I was overwhelmed by my to-do list, I was tired or it was that time of the month, not because the kids were behaving "badly." I also quickly realized that acknowledging my personal triggers by saying out loud: "Orange Rhino, you have wicked PMS and need chocolate, you aren’t mad at the kids, don’t yell" works really well to keep yells at bay."
9. Taking care of me helps me to not yell.
"I was always great at taking care of others; I was not, however, always good at taking care of myself until now. Once I realized that personal triggers like feeling overweight, feeling disconnected from friends, and feeling exhausted set me up to yell, I started taking care of me. I started going to bed earlier, prioritizing exercise, trying to call one friend a day and most importantly, I started telling myself it’s OK to not be perfect. Taking care of me not only helps me not yell, but it also makes me happier, more relaxed, and more loving. Ah, the benefits of not yelling extend far beyond parenting! There is no doubt that I am in a better parenting AND personal place now that I don’t yell. Just to name a few unexpected benefits of not yelling: I do more random acts of kindness, I handle stressful situations more gracefully, and I communicate more lovingly with my husband."
10. Not yelling feels phenomenal for everyone.
"Now that I have stopped yelling, not only do I feel happier and calmer, I also feel lighter. I go to bed guilt-free (except for the extra cookie I ate that day, oops) and wake up more confident that I can parent with greater understanding of my kids, my needs, and how to be more loving and patient. And I am pretty sure my kids feel happier and calmer too. I know everyone wants to read, "I stopped yelling and not only do I feel great, but also my kids are now calmer AND perfectly behaved." Well, they aren’t. They are still kids. But, yes tantrums are shorter and some are completely avoided. Now that I am calmer, I can think more rationally to resolve potential problems before meltdown mania. But forget perfectly behaved kids for a second. My kids are most definitely more loving towards me, and now tell me quite often "I love you Orange Rhino mommy!" and that feels more than awesome, it feels phenomenal."
Quoted some of my favorites.
This article deals with pertinent concerns, dealing with relationships with kids, significant others, family, and friends.
Take-Aways: Take care of yourself. Not only for others, but for you. We are all individuals and have our own problems. The key, is not to let these issues overwhelm us causing us to react negatively towards one another.
One big key point, is the notion that children are people too. They have bad days like the rest. It is unreasonable to expect perfection in behavior from the exploratory nature of children.
Lastly, looking in the mirror is crucial and critical; it can help identify the issue. Such as the author, she realized yelling at her kids and significant other was due to suffering she experienced in her own life.
Heather Linebaugh: Few of the politicians who so brazenly proclaim the benefits of drones have a real clue how it actually works (and doesn’t)
Whenever I read comments by politicians defending the Unmanned Aerial Vehicle Predator and Reaper program– akadrones– I wish I could ask them some questions. I’d start with: “How many women and children have you seen incinerated by a Hellfire missile?” And: “How many men have you seen crawl across a field, trying to make it to the nearest compound for help while bleeding out from severed legs?” Or even more pointedly: “How many soldiers have you seen die on the side of a road inAfghanistanbecause our ever-so-accurate UAVs [unmanned aerial vehicle] were unable to detect an IED [improvised explosive device] that awaited their convoy?”
Few of these politicians who so brazenly proclaim the benefits of drones have a real clue of what actually goes on. I, on the other hand, have seen these awful sights first hand.
I knew the names of some of the young soldiers I saw bleed to death on the side of a road. I watched dozens of military-aged males die in Afghanistan, in empty fields, along riversides, and some right outside the compound where their family was waiting for them to return home from mosque.